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RecoveredMan.com presents Pornfree Radio with Matt Dobschuetz. This is THE podcast for motivated guys, who want to quit looking at porn, get hope and take action. Whether you have been at this a long time or just hit rock bottom, this podcast is for you. Matt Dobschuetz shares how his journey to being porn free started with the humiliation of being caught by his wife downloading pornography in 2001. What came out of that lowest point was a new desire to get free and a passion for helping others. Matt has practical advice and a plan for getting out of porn addiction. He gets it. He been there and made mistakes but now lives 100% porn free. Getting a system that works and is repeatable is the cornerstone of Pornfree Radio. Every time you fail you have an opportunity to learn what works for you and make the necessary changes to your plan. Whether your goal is improving your marriage, your career/business, or just making you a better dad- getting rid of the porn will free you to make it happen. Get hope and take action!
Episodes
- 2019 / 10 / 17213 - Are You An Owner Or A Victim?When it comes to situations in your life, how do you often respond? Are you in habit of being an owner or a victim? Your ability to go porn depends on this... https://recoveredman.com/213
- 2019 / 10 / 10212 - Why Do We Struggle With Commitment?Today, I am asking some questions... why do we struggle with commitment and follow-through? Why do resist creating healthy boundaries? And finally, if "the opposite of addiction is connection" why do we avoid...
- 2019 / 10 / 2211 - PFR - Automatic ThoughtsWe focus on triggers a lot in recovery. Anticipating them. Avoiding them. Reducing them. But our thoughts, especially the ones that feel automatic often prompt our behaviors. This episode is about becoming...
- 2019 / 9 / 12210 - The Most Unpleasant Success Principle In The WorldIn this episode, I share about one of my heroes, my rusty Buick, and the most unpleasant success principle in the world. https://recoveredman.com/210
- 2019 / 9 / 4209 - Commitment Wanes; It Eventually DiesWhat story do you tell yourself after a setback? That you're not disciplined enough? That you're lacking confidence? Or will power? The truth is we simply lack commitment. https://recoveredman.com/209
- 2019 / 8 / 15208 - How Our Pain Is TransformedFollowing up on episode 207, Pain Not Transformed is Transmitted, I answer the specific question of how our pain is transformed. https://recoveredman.com/208
- 2019 / 8 / 8207 - Pain Not Transformed is Transmitted"If we do not transform our pain," Richard Rohr writes. "We will most assuredly transmit it." On today's show, I talk about how we avoid pain with porn and how the work of recovery is about transforming...
- 2019 / 7 / 31206 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 5: Kicking Ass In LifeOur culture would have us believe that all we can't fully enjoy life if we choose recovery. But the opposite is true. When we put the proper boundary on porn and our addictions, we get access to the rest of...
- 2019 / 7 / 25205 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 4: How Our Excuses Reveal Our BeliefsDo you have an idea of some actions you should take in recovery? Or is there a behavior that you know you need to eliminate? What's stopping you? In this virtual coaching session, I explain how our excuses...
- 2019 / 7 / 19204 – My Horrific, Porn Withdrawal ExperienceI have a stack of emails today and I'm answering your questions... What's the best way to tell my girlfriend about a relapse? Is a realistic goal to abstain from masturbation when there is no relationship in...
- 2019 / 7 / 10203 – We Feel What We Focus OnRecently I was dealt a crushing blow. Because of a flight cancelation, I went from having a first class ticket to a middle seat in the back of the plane. On this episode, we talk about dealing with...
- 2019 / 7 / 2202 – Unwanted with Jay StringerMy interview with Jay Stringer, author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing. https://recoveredman.com/202
- 2019 / 6 / 28201 – Being Kind To YourselfToday's episode is about being kind to yourself, having compassion, and finding self-care. https://recoveredman.com/201
- 2019 / 6 / 20200 – Superfan TakeoverSuperfan, Jon Jones, interviews Matt in a special show to celebrate 200 episodes of Porn Free Radio. https://recoveredman.com/200
- 2019 / 6 / 14199 – PFR: Behind The MusicGentlemen, we're not alone in this. In this episode, we break down the ingenious PFR theme created by Adam the producer. https://recoveredman.com/199
- 2019 / 6 / 5198 – Getting Caught or Getting CourageThe first step in recovery is exposure, whether it's from getting caught or getting courage. The exposure helps us press into honesty. In this episode, we talk about the why we avoid exposure and the gifts...
- 2019 / 5 / 31197 – What Does the Porn I Look At Say About Me?We draw big conclusions from the type of we've looked at. Feelings like we are unique. We are disgusting or abnormal. But these are tricks of our ego to keep us stuck. https://recoveredman.com/197
- 2019 / 5 / 24196 – John Wick FocusIn today's episode, I share what we can learn about recovery from the John Wick saga. Get access to my new audio series, Coffee with the Dobber, on Patreon. Link: https://recoveredman.com/contribute
- 2019 / 5 / 16195 – Mistaken Belief: If I Don’t Try, I Can’t FailIt's confession time on Porn Free Radio. My sobriety is intact, but I have been struggling with a mistaken belief in two areas of my life. And it's time to come clean. https://recoveredman.com/195
- 2019 / 5 / 9194 – How Do You Rebound After Edging?On today's episode, your questions...How do you rebound after edging? What's the connection with porn addiction and depression/anxiety? And a crazy topic, I have never discussed on Porn Free Radio plus...
- 2019 / 4 / 30193 – Digital Minimalism Pt. 2In the second of 2 episodes, Matt finishes our discussion on the book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, by Cal Newport. https://recoveredman.com/192
- 2019 / 4 / 26192 – Digital Minimalism Pt. 1In the first of 2 episodes, Matt digs into the book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, by author and Computer Science professor, Cal Newport. https://recoveredman.com/192
- 2019 / 3 / 24191 – RejectionWhen we feel rejected we think, "Well, that proves once again that I am a nobody." Rejection is a huge trigger and can be an obstacle to healthy recovery. It keeps us isolated and...
- 2019 / 3 / 1190 – 7-Day Stretch GoalsNeed a boost? A 7-day stretch goal can help energize your recovery this week. In this episode, you'll learn what a 7-day stretch goal is, why it's important, and how to set one. https://recoveredman.com/190
- 2019 / 2 / 22189 – Becoming the type of man that does not look at porn pt. 2In episode 113 of PFR, a listener named Jon wrote, "I'm becoming the type of man who does not look at porn." This idea has connected with many listeners since it posted back in 2017. Today, I read a letter...
- 2019 / 2 / 14188 – More HopeHope Ray, therapist and partner specialist, returns to discuss recovery, relationships, and more. https://recoveredman.com/188
- 2019 / 1 / 24187 – What I want to do, I can’t do. I do what I hate.On this episode of Porn Free Radio, I open up my inbox and answer your questions: Should I get rid of anything that triggers me? If you’ve gone porn free for a few years before you get married do you have to...
- 2019 / 1 / 11186 – Success Comes From 50% Recovery Work And 50% Kicking Ass In LifeSometimes I focus on the struggle too much. It's hard walking in recovery. I want to be honest about that. But then I think what am I doing to kick ass in life? What excites me? What sparks joy? On today's...
- 2019 / 1 / 4185 – How Successful Guys Overcome EdgingMost relapses start with edging. Edging is any unsound activity that mimics our old patterns with porn. In this episode, you'll learn to shift your thinking away from "this is not porn"...
- 2018 / 12 / 28184 – How Successful Guys Overcome Boredomin this episode, we continue our Successful Guys series. We talk about boredom, distraction, and why cultivating solitude is important for recovery. https://recoveredman.com/184
- 2018 / 12 / 21183 – How Successful Guys Overcome RelapsingContinuing our successful guys series, I offer 3 powerful ideas for overcoming relapsing. https://recoveredman.com/183
- 2018 / 12 / 13182 – How Successful Guys Overcome ShameIn this episode, we continue with our successful guys series by discussing shame. C.G. Jung called shame a "soul eating emotion.” It's the corrosive state where our failure and flaws come to define us....
- 2018 / 12 / 6181 – How Successful Guys Overcome Lack of MotivationYou want to change your relationship and habits with porn. You want motivation to do what has to be done. https://recoveredman.com/181
- 2018 / 11 / 29180 – How to Overcome Triggers And CravingA lot of importance is placed on triggers in recovery. Almost too much. Because its really the craving we need to learn to deal with. https://recoveredman.com/180
- 2018 / 11 / 15179 – Coffee with the Dobber: FlowAre you overwhelmed getting started going porn free? Or have you been in recovery, a while, and gotten bored? Maybe you've lost some focus or feel apathetic. Join Matt for a cup of coffee and a discussion...
- 2018 / 11 / 1178 – Matt, What’s Your Plan Look Like?In REV this week, I was asked to share my current plan. So my co-leader Jay and I went through Your PornFree Playbook and captured our current recovery plans. https://recoveredman.com/178
- 2018 / 10 / 24177 – Reservoir of Hope with Brian and ClayBrian, a PFR super fan, shares 10 quotes that impacted him from the podcast. He's joined by his accountability partner, Clay. Plus, you have to check out the original PFR song in this episode. It's...
- 2018 / 10 / 17176 – There’s A Part Of You That Doesn’t Want To Give Up PornThere's one thing you should know: there's a part of you that doesn't want to give up porn. It's your rebellious side that avoids responsibility and anything that feels like rules. But THIS podcast episode...
- 2018 / 10 / 11175 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 3: Accountability As OwnershipIf you ever thought, " I just need someone to hold me accountable." OR "I really need a good accountability partner.", this episode if for you. https://recoveredman.com/175
- 2018 / 10 / 3174 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 2: What Gets Scheduled Is What Gets DoneAre you committed to being porn free? Let me see your calendar. What does your calendar show me about your commitment to recovery? On this episode, I share the principal of what gets scheduled is what gets...
- 2018 / 9 / 26173 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 1: Six Human NeedsAfter a relapse have you ever wondered. "why did I do that?" Regardless of who we are we are all driven to meet six human needs. The first four needs show up commonly in our relapses and struggles. The last...
- 2018 / 9 / 13172 – Do You Have a B.S. Problem?Have you ever thought, "Man, I'm hopeless..." Or "I'm not good with self-discipline..." Or when it comes to recovery, "If I can't do this perfect... I can't do it..." On today's episode, we talk all about......
- 2018 / 8 / 29171 – Love People Use Things with Noah ChurchNoah Church joins me for an EPIC crossover episode with the Love People Use Things podcast. https://recoveredman.com/171
- 2018 / 8 / 22170 – Are You Waiting For Motivation?Are you waiting for motivation to take action in your recovery? In today's episode, I talk about why motivation doesn't work. It's important, but not the thing that moves us...
- 2018 / 8 / 16169 – Are You Living Fully Alive?On this episode, I talk about my continued journey of transformation. If you're struggling with porn you need to listen. If you're struggling with porn AND your personal fitness - LISTEN...
- 2018 / 8 / 8168 – Real Recovery Requires TransformationDo you remember Pornfree Radio? On today's episode, we talk about why real recovery requires transformation and the 3 things we need to change. https://recoveredman.com/168
- 2018 / 7 / 25167 – My Porn Free Philadelphia Trip PlanOn today's episode, I work out my porn free Philadelphia travel plan ahead of my trip to Podcast Movement 2018. http://recoveredman.com/167
- 2018 / 7 / 23166 – Mindless RecoveryHave you every felt hijacked by obsessive thinking or porn behaviors? You react impulsively to moments of opportunity over and over again. In this episode, we discuss how you can re-engineer your environment...
- 2018 / 7 / 11165 – Getting Back On Track After RelapseIt's BOGO Wednesday on Pornfree Radio. Two topics for the price of one. First up, I share a powerful tool you can use to get back on track after relapse. Second, I examine why we're tempted to disown our...
- 2018 / 7 / 9164 – Decrease the Hesitation… Men Are WaitingYears ago, I went on a men's weekend. The leader of the weekend, John, was fond of saying, "Decrease the hesitation gentlemen... men are waiting!" In the episode, I share the meaning of this phrase and how...