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Porn Free Radio
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RecoveredMan.com presents Pornfree Radio with Matt Dobschuetz. This is THE podcast for motivated guys, who want to quit looking at porn, get hope and take action. Whether you have been at this a long time or just hit rock bottom, this podcast is for you. Matt Dobschuetz shares how his journey to being porn free started with the humiliation of being caught by his wife downloading pornography in 2001. What came out of that lowest point was a new desire to get free and a passion for helping others. Matt has practical advice and a plan for getting out of porn addiction. He gets it. He been there and made mistakes but now lives 100% porn free. Getting a system that works and is repeatable is the cornerstone of Pornfree Radio. Every time you fail you have an opportunity to learn what works for you and make the necessary changes to your plan. Whether your goal is improving your marriage, your career/business, or just making you a better dad- getting rid of the porn will free you to make it happen. Get hope and take action!

Episodes
  • 2019 / 10 / 17
    213 - Are You An Owner Or A Victim?

    When it comes to situations in your life, how do you often respond? Are you in habit of being an owner or a victim? Your ability to go porn depends on this... https://recoveredman.com/213

  • 2019 / 10 / 10
    212 - Why Do We Struggle With Commitment?

    Today, I am asking some questions... why do we struggle with commitment and follow-through? Why do resist creating healthy boundaries? And finally, if "the opposite of addiction is connection" why do we avoid...

  • 2019 / 10 / 2
    211 - PFR - Automatic Thoughts

    We focus on triggers a lot in recovery. Anticipating them. Avoiding them. Reducing them. But our thoughts, especially the ones that feel automatic often prompt our behaviors. This episode is about becoming...

  • 2019 / 9 / 12
    210 - The Most Unpleasant Success Principle In The World

    In this episode, I share about one of my heroes, my rusty Buick, and the most unpleasant success principle in the world. https://recoveredman.com/210

  • 2019 / 9 / 4
    209 - Commitment Wanes; It Eventually Dies

    What story do you tell yourself after a setback? That you're not disciplined enough? That you're lacking confidence? Or will power? The truth is we simply lack commitment. https://recoveredman.com/209

  • 2019 / 8 / 15
    208 - How Our Pain Is Transformed

    Following up on episode 207, Pain Not Transformed is Transmitted, I answer the specific question of how our pain is transformed. https://recoveredman.com/208

  • 2019 / 8 / 8
    207 - Pain Not Transformed is Transmitted

    "If we do not transform our pain," Richard Rohr writes. "We will most assuredly transmit it." On today's show, I talk about how we avoid pain with porn and how the work of recovery is about transforming...

  • 2019 / 7 / 31
    206 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 5: Kicking Ass In Life

    Our culture would have us believe that all we can't fully enjoy life if we choose recovery. But the opposite is true. When we put the proper boundary on porn and our addictions, we get access to the rest of...

  • 2019 / 7 / 25
    205 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 4: How Our Excuses Reveal Our Beliefs

    Do you have an idea of some actions you should take in recovery? Or is there a behavior that you know you need to eliminate? What's stopping you? In this virtual coaching session, I explain how our excuses...

  • 2019 / 7 / 19
    204 – My Horrific, Porn Withdrawal Experience

    I have a stack of emails today and I'm answering your questions... What's the best way to tell my girlfriend about a relapse? Is a realistic goal to abstain from masturbation when there is no relationship in...

  • 2019 / 7 / 10
    203 – We Feel What We Focus On

    Recently I was dealt a crushing blow. Because of a flight cancelation, I went from having a first class ticket to a middle seat in the back of the plane. On this episode, we talk about dealing with...

  • 2019 / 7 / 2
    202 – Unwanted with Jay Stringer

    My interview with Jay Stringer, author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing. https://recoveredman.com/202

  • 2019 / 6 / 28
    201 – Being Kind To Yourself

    Today's episode is about being kind to yourself, having compassion, and finding self-care. https://recoveredman.com/201

  • 2019 / 6 / 20
    200 – Superfan Takeover

    Superfan, Jon Jones, interviews Matt in a special show to celebrate 200 episodes of Porn Free Radio. https://recoveredman.com/200

  • 2019 / 6 / 14
    199 – PFR: Behind The Music

    Gentlemen, we're not alone in this. In this episode, we break down the ingenious PFR theme created by Adam the producer. https://recoveredman.com/199

  • 2019 / 6 / 5
    198 – Getting Caught or Getting Courage

    The first step in recovery is exposure, whether it's from getting caught or getting courage. The exposure helps us press into honesty. In this episode, we talk about the why we avoid exposure and the gifts...

  • 2019 / 5 / 31
    197 – What Does the Porn I Look At Say About Me?

    We draw big conclusions from the type of we've looked at. Feelings like we are unique. We are disgusting or abnormal. But these are tricks of our ego to keep us stuck. https://recoveredman.com/197

  • 2019 / 5 / 24
    196 – John Wick Focus

    In today's episode, I share what we can learn about recovery from the John Wick saga. Get access to my new audio series, Coffee with the Dobber, on Patreon. Link: https://recoveredman.com/contribute

  • 2019 / 5 / 16
    195 – Mistaken Belief: If I Don’t Try, I Can’t Fail

    It's confession time on Porn Free Radio. My sobriety is intact, but I have been struggling with a mistaken belief in two areas of my life. And it's time to come clean. https://recoveredman.com/195

  • 2019 / 5 / 9
    194 – How Do You Rebound After Edging?

    On today's episode, your questions...How do you rebound after edging? What's the connection with porn addiction and depression/anxiety? And a crazy topic, I have never discussed on Porn Free Radio plus...

  • 2019 / 4 / 30
    193 – Digital Minimalism Pt. 2

    In the second of 2 episodes, Matt finishes our discussion on the book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, by Cal Newport. https://recoveredman.com/192

  • 2019 / 4 / 26
    192 – Digital Minimalism Pt. 1

    In the first of 2 episodes, Matt digs into the book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, by author and Computer Science professor, Cal Newport. https://recoveredman.com/192

  • 2019 / 3 / 24
    191 – Rejection

    When we feel rejected we think, "Well, that proves once again that I am a nobody." Rejection is a huge trigger and can be an obstacle to healthy recovery. It keeps us isolated and...

  • 2019 / 3 / 1
    190 – 7-Day Stretch Goals

    Need a boost? A 7-day stretch goal can help energize your recovery this week. In this episode, you'll learn what a 7-day stretch goal is, why it's important, and how to set one. https://recoveredman.com/190

  • 2019 / 2 / 22
    189 – Becoming the type of man that does not look at porn pt. 2

    In episode 113 of PFR, a listener named Jon wrote, "I'm becoming the type of man who does not look at porn." This idea has connected with many listeners since it posted back in 2017. Today, I read a letter...

  • 2019 / 2 / 14
    188 – More Hope

    Hope Ray, therapist and partner specialist, returns to discuss recovery, relationships, and more. https://recoveredman.com/188

  • 2019 / 1 / 24
    187 – What I want to do, I can’t do. I do what I hate.

    On this episode of Porn Free Radio, I open up my inbox and answer your questions: Should I get rid of anything that triggers me? If you’ve gone porn free for a few years before you get married do you have to...

  • 2019 / 1 / 11
    186 – Success Comes From 50% Recovery Work And 50% Kicking Ass In Life

    Sometimes I focus on the struggle too much. It's hard walking in recovery. I want to be honest about that. But then I think what am I doing to kick ass in life? What excites me? What sparks joy? On today's...

  • 2019 / 1 / 4
    185 – How Successful Guys Overcome Edging

    Most relapses start with edging. Edging is any unsound activity that mimics our old patterns with porn. In this episode, you'll learn to shift your thinking away from "this is not porn"...

  • 2018 / 12 / 28
    184 – How Successful Guys Overcome Boredom

    in this episode, we continue our Successful Guys series. We talk about boredom, distraction, and why cultivating solitude is important for recovery. https://recoveredman.com/184

  • 2018 / 12 / 21
    183 – How Successful Guys Overcome Relapsing

    Continuing our successful guys series, I offer 3 powerful ideas for overcoming relapsing.  https://recoveredman.com/183

  • 2018 / 12 / 13
    182 – How Successful Guys Overcome Shame

    In this episode, we continue with our successful guys series by discussing shame.  C.G. Jung called shame a "soul eating emotion.” It's the corrosive state where our failure and flaws come to define us....

  • 2018 / 12 / 6
    181 – How Successful Guys Overcome Lack of Motivation

    You want to change your relationship and habits with porn. You want motivation to do what has to be done. https://recoveredman.com/181

  • 2018 / 11 / 29
    180 – How to Overcome Triggers And Craving

    A lot of importance is placed on triggers in recovery. Almost too much. Because its really the craving we need to learn to deal with. https://recoveredman.com/180

  • 2018 / 11 / 15
    179 – Coffee with the Dobber: Flow

    Are you overwhelmed getting started going porn free? Or have you been in recovery, a while, and gotten bored? Maybe you've lost some focus or feel apathetic. Join Matt for a cup of coffee and a discussion...

  • 2018 / 11 / 1
    178 – Matt, What’s Your Plan Look Like?

    In REV this week, I was asked to share my current plan. So my co-leader Jay and I went through Your PornFree Playbook and captured our current recovery plans.  https://recoveredman.com/178

  • 2018 / 10 / 24
    177 – Reservoir of Hope with Brian and Clay

    Brian, a PFR super fan, shares 10 quotes that impacted him from the podcast. He's joined by his accountability partner, Clay. Plus, you have to check out the original PFR song in this episode. It's...

  • 2018 / 10 / 17
    176 – There’s A Part Of You That Doesn’t Want To Give Up Porn

    There's one thing you should know: there's a part of you that doesn't want to give up porn. It's your rebellious side that avoids responsibility and anything that feels like rules. But THIS podcast episode...

  • 2018 / 10 / 11
    175 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 3: Accountability As Ownership

    If you ever thought, " I just need someone to hold me accountable." OR "I really need a good accountability partner.", this episode if for you. https://recoveredman.com/175

  • 2018 / 10 / 3
    174 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 2: What Gets Scheduled Is What Gets Done

    Are you committed to being porn free? Let me see your calendar. What does your calendar show me about your commitment to recovery? On this episode, I share the principal of what gets scheduled is what gets...

  • 2018 / 9 / 26
    173 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 1: Six Human Needs

    After a relapse have you ever wondered. "why did I do that?" Regardless of who we are we are all driven to meet six human needs. The first four needs show up commonly in our relapses and struggles. The last...

  • 2018 / 9 / 13
    172 – Do You Have a B.S. Problem?

    Have you ever thought, "Man, I'm hopeless..." Or "I'm not good with self-discipline..." Or when it comes to recovery, "If I can't do this perfect... I can't do it..." On today's episode, we talk all about......

  • 2018 / 8 / 29
    171 – Love People Use Things with Noah Church

    Noah Church joins me for an EPIC crossover episode with the Love People Use Things podcast. https://recoveredman.com/171

  • 2018 / 8 / 22
    170 – Are You Waiting For Motivation?

    Are you waiting for motivation to take action in your recovery? In today's episode, I talk about why motivation doesn't work. It's important, but not the thing that moves us...

  • 2018 / 8 / 16
    169 – Are You Living Fully Alive?

    On this episode, I talk about my continued journey of transformation. If you're struggling with porn you need to listen. If you're struggling with porn AND your personal fitness - LISTEN...

  • 2018 / 8 / 8
    168 – Real Recovery Requires Transformation

    Do you remember Pornfree Radio? On today's episode, we talk about why real recovery requires transformation and the 3 things we need to change. https://recoveredman.com/168

  • 2018 / 7 / 25
    167 – My Porn Free Philadelphia Trip Plan

    On today's episode, I work out my porn free Philadelphia travel plan ahead of my trip to Podcast Movement 2018. http://recoveredman.com/167

  • 2018 / 7 / 23
    166 – Mindless Recovery

    Have you every felt hijacked by obsessive thinking or porn behaviors? You react impulsively to moments of opportunity over and over again. In this episode, we discuss how you can re-engineer your environment...

  • 2018 / 7 / 11
    165 – Getting Back On Track After Relapse

    It's BOGO Wednesday on Pornfree Radio. Two topics for the price of one. First up, I share a powerful tool you can use to get back on track after relapse. Second, I examine why we're tempted to disown our...

  • 2018 / 7 / 9
    164 – Decrease the Hesitation… Men Are Waiting

    Years ago, I went on a men's weekend. The leader of the weekend, John, was fond of saying, "Decrease the hesitation gentlemen... men are waiting!" In the episode, I share the meaning of this phrase and how...

  • 2018 / 6 / 28
    163 – How Long Does It Take To Recover?

    How long does it take to recover? It depends. Are you willing to do what it takes? In this episode, I share about 3 cliches in recovery and why pressing into discomfort is the path to substantial...

  • 2018 / 6 / 21
    162 – Mind Playing Tricks On Me

    I discuss the way our mind plays tricks when we're in recovery. I share 5 common tricks we face and what the truth is. http://recoveredman.com/162

  • 2018 / 6 / 13
    161 – We all have an intense longing for inspired masculinity

    This week is Father's Day in the United States and so we're talking about masculinity, specifically inspired masculinity.  What it is and why is it important to our recovery. http://recoveredman.com/161

  • 2018 / 6 / 6
    160 – Jason George “The Griz” Pt. 2

    Jason George from The Griz Podcast visits PFR for 2nd of 2 episodes. In this episode, Jason shares his recovery journey and why men in ministry struggle with porn.  http://recoveredman.com/160

  • 2018 / 5 / 30
    159 – Jason George “The Griz” Pt. 1

    Jason George from The Griz Podcast visits PFR for 1 of 2 episodes. In this episode, Jason shares his early years, his struggle with pornography, and his spiritual awakening. http://recoveredman.com/159

  • 2018 / 5 / 24
    158 – Most Wanted Pt. 3: Single vs. Married

    In part 3 of 3 Most Wanted topics, we talk specifically about your relationship status. I start by focusing on challenges the single man faces in recovery. Then I compare that with the challenges married men...

  • 2018 / 5 / 16
    157 – Most Wanted Pt. 2: Fetishes and Going Porn Free

    In part 2 of 3 Most Wanted topics, we examine how fetish addiction affects our goal of going porn free. In this episode, I explain the 4 stages of addiction as defined by Dr. A. Thomas Horvath. I also share...

  • 2018 / 5 / 11
    156 – Most Wanted Pt. 1: Masturbation and Going Porn Free

    In part 1 of 3, Most Wanted topics, we examine how masturbation affects our goal of going porn free. Get full show notes: http://recoveredman.com/156

  • 2018 / 5 / 3
    155 – Overcoming Addiction

    Pornfree Radio turns 4 years old this week. PFR Episode 001 launched 4/30/2014. Thousands of emails and 154 episodes later, we keep things going by discussing how addiction can be seen as an extreme version...

  • 2018 / 4 / 25
    154 – Resistance In Recovery Pt. 3 – 90 Days Plus

    Part 3 of 3 episodes on Resistance In Recovery focuses on stage 3 - day 90 and beyond. “Most of us have two lives. The life we live and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.”...

  • 2018 / 4 / 18
    153 – Resistance In Recovery Pt. 2 – Days 31-90

    Part 2 of 3 episodes on Resistance In Recovery focuses on stage 2, days 31-90. “Most of us have two lives. The life we live and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.” -Steven...

  • 2018 / 4 / 12
    152 – Resistance In Recovery Pt. 1: First 30 Days

    Part 1 of 3 episodes on Resistance In Recovery focuses on stage 1, the first 30 days. “Most of us have two lives. The life we live and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.”  -Steven...

  • 2018 / 4 / 4
    151 – Up Late. Can’t Sleep. Uh-oh!

    "I did something I did not expect myself to do last night," Andrew, a PFR listener wrote in. "I was up far too late, and could not go to sleep because I had this unsettling feeling in my body. I knew what I...

  • 2018 / 3 / 28
    150 – Ego Is The Enemy Pt. 2

    In part 2 of 2 episodes, I share recovery insights from Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday. (2016. In this episode, I focus on how ego affects guys at 3 different stages of recovery. Get the full show notes...

  • 2018 / 3 / 21
    149 – Ego Is The Enemy Pt. 1

    In part 1 of 2 episodes, I share a book I am reading called, Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday. I discuss how ego has influenced both my addiction and recovery. Get the full show notes...

  • 2018 / 3 / 14
    148 – Greatest Hits of Pornfree Radio Vol. 1

    Long time listener and fan of the show Will asks, "what episodes would you recommend for new listeners?" Here's my take on the “Top 5” greatest hits. Get the full show notes here: http://recoveredman.com/148

  • 2018 / 3 / 7
    147 – Working At Home Without Relapsing Pt. 2

    In part 2 of 2 episodes, we continue to discuss Working At Home Without Relapsing. I share the 3 biggest threats to staying porn free while working at home. Then I share tools to deal with each threat...

  • 2018 / 2 / 28
    146 – Working At Home Without Relapsing Pt. 1

    Just curious... have you ever had to work from home? Maybe you have a flexible schedule that allows you to work at home. Or maybe it's a snow day or your home sick from work. Is that a threat? Is it...

  • 2018 / 2 / 21
    145 – Isn’t Self-Reliance the Goal of Recovery?

    With the podcast's emphasis on personal responsibility, it's easy to think the goal of recovery work is self-reliance. That in order to be strong we need to become emotionally self-reliant. But this...

  • 2018 / 2 / 14
    144 – Your Recovery Is Not Your Relationship…

    Your recovery is NOT your relationship and your relationship is NOT your recovery. On this special Valentine's Day episode, I explain the common confusion guys have with recovery work and their primary...

  • 2018 / 2 / 7
    143 – Dave’s 5 Mistaken Beliefs About Porn

    It's Wednesday! On today's episode, I share Dave's 5 mistaken beliefs about porn. Dave was featured in PFR 138 when he reached the 2-year porn free milestone. 1.) The next change in my life will make it...

  • 2018 / 1 / 31
    142 – Your Porn. Her Pain. How Partners Heal w/ Lori and Jay Pyatt

    On today's episode, we follow the partner's journey. Lori and Jay Pyatt share their story of navigating porn addiction, betrayal, and recovery as a couple. Lori mentors women who are healing from effects of...

  • 2018 / 1 / 24
    141 – When does quitting porn get easier?

    When does quitting porn get easier? Really? This past week, marked 7 years porn free for me. In this episode, I share 12 milestones that happened on my journey after which things got easier. You'll...

  • 2018 / 1 / 11
    140 – My Amazing Porn Discovery!

    Which came first? My intense sexual curiosity or porn exposure? The answer might surprise you. In this episode, I explore my early days of porn exposure and a new realization I had this...

  • 2018 / 1 / 3
    139 – Pornfree Radio Live! New Years Day

    Recorded live on January 1, 2018. Grab your coffee (or hot beverage of choice) as we welcome in 2018 porn free! In this episode: - 5 Resolutions You Can Keep This Year - A brave listener is interviewed...

  • 2017 / 12 / 26
    138 – Thank You For 2 Years Porn Free

    In this final episode for 2017, Pornfree Radio listeners share their milestones, thank-yous, favorite artists, and more. http://recoveredman.com/138

  • 2017 / 12 / 19
    137 – 5-Minute Self Care Habits

    Do you struggle making time for self care? Do you suck at being creative? In today's episode, we break down 15 self care habits that take 5 minutes of less. Now it's prescriptive- I try to match your...

  • 2017 / 12 / 12
    136 – Looking At A Woman And Not Seeing

    On this episode of Pornfree Radio we discuss a topic we've never discussed before: Purity. An unlikely subject for a podcast devoted to skipping Christian cliches about pornography and lust. And yet I was...

  • 2017 / 12 / 4
    135 – Breaking Free with Michael Leahy, Author and CEO of BraveHearts

    Michael Leahy, author of Porn Nation, joins Pornfree Radio to discuss his journey out of porn and sex addiction. Michael is the CEO and founder of BraveHearts a faith-based mentoring organization for men...

  • 2017 / 11 / 28
    134 – Motivation Pt. 3: The ONE Thing

    Part 3 of 3 in our series on Motivation examines the unpacks the ONE thing you need to take action. Motivation as we have discussed is triggered by making choices but how do we focus our action. In this...

  • 2017 / 11 / 20
    133 – Motivation Pt. 2: Internal Locus of Control

    Part 2 of 3 in our series on Motivation examines the concept of an internal locus of control found in Smarter Faster Better by Charles Duhigg. We build on this idea and unpack how motivation is triggered by...

  • 2017 / 11 / 13
    132 – Motivation Pt. 1: The Myth of Self Discipline

    Part 1 of 3 in our series on Motivation starts with The Myth Of Self Discipline found in Gary Keller's book The ONE Thing. https://recoveredman.com/132

  • 2017 / 10 / 19
    131 – Things were going so well and then you looked at porn again!?!

    Have you ever had something good happen in your life? A promotion? A birthday party? A big win? Then you looked at porn and everything came crashing down. Maybe you got to a BIG recovery milestone like...

  • 2017 / 10 / 10
    130 – Back 2 Basics: What Is Self Care?

    In this episode, I answer a common question from new listeners: "What is Self Care?" https://recoveredman.com/130

  • 2017 / 10 / 3
    129 – The 7 Lies of Hugh Hefner

    Hugh Hefner was a callous, con man. He created the myth of “the playboy.” A rich man, who lived in his pajamas, worshipped by beautiful women. He sold his myth like Phillip Morris sold the Marlboro Man. It...

  • 2017 / 9 / 27
    128 – The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails Pt. 2

    In the second of 2 episodes, I share my journey discovering the The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails. Part 1 is found in episode 127. https://recoveredman.com/128

  • 2017 / 9 / 22
    127 – The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails Pt. 1

    In the first of 2 episodes, I share my journey discovering the The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails. I share the first two steps and explain why it took 11 years for me to go from step 1 to step 2. It's 5...

  • 2017 / 9 / 7
    126 – Road Trip: Porn on I-75

    Back from a summer vacation with my family this week. I discuss traveling to Florida on I-75, Disney World, and getting sick. Also some timely fantasy football talk. https://recoveredman.com/126

  • 2017 / 8 / 18
    125 – Know You’re Not Alone w/ Sam Dobschuetz

    Sam Dobschuetz, Coach and Stay-At-Home Dad, visits the Porn Free Radio studio aka my basement. Sam coaches youth group pastors and has a passion for helping guys get out of isolation, find community, and...

  • 2017 / 8 / 8
    124 – How To Porn-Proof Your Home

    In this episode, I'll show you how to porn-proof your home today. I share: - the actual tools I use - walk you through their set up - some awesome strategies that PFR listeners are using to manage content...

  • 2017 / 7 / 31
    123 – Start Before You’re Ready

    My inbox is full (again!) Time to answer your burning questions. - Why do you say that porn addiction recovery has little to do with brain science? - How do you know when you're ready to help someone else...

  • 2017 / 7 / 20
    122 – 3 Questions To Laser Focus Your Recovery This Week

    Several years ago I participated in a men's weekend. It was a deep-dive counseling intensive. I'll admit it, I did beat on a drum at one point during the three days. But it was an incredible experience. On...

  • 2017 / 7 / 9
    121 The Hero’s Journey with Ben Fraser

    In this episode, we discuss "The Hero's Journey" with Ben Fraser, film maker and creator of the Brick House Web Series about quitting porn. Ben shares how he used the archetype of "The Hero" to reframe his...

  • 2017 / 6 / 19
    120 – School’s Out Syndrome

    Summer is here and it's a great time to talk about "School's Out Syndrome." It's that feeling we have on the last day of school. A perverse freedom that comes in transition when we don't feel like we have...

  • 2017 / 6 / 5
    119 – Riding the Recovery Roller Coaster

    If you have been at recovery for a while you have probably had a "roller coaster week." It's where you have some good recovery activities and momentum, then a relapse. How do we make sense of these ups and...

  • 2017 / 5 / 30
    118 – Redefining Identity with Crystal Renaud

    Coach and founder of Dirty Girl Ministries, Crystal Renaud, joins Porn Free Radio. In this episode, we discuss the importance of moving from away from negative labels (i.e. addict) in recovery. Crystal also...

  • 2017 / 5 / 23
    117 – 3 Common Mistakes Guys Make After A Relapse

    How you're responding after a slip or a relapse can determine the long-term health of your recovery. In this episode, I share 3 common mistakes I routinely made after relapses and what you can do to avoid...

  • 2017 / 5 / 16
    116 – How To Deal With Pornographic Thoughts in Public

    We've all been there. Whether it's at the mall, the grocery store, or even at church, we have these nagging lustful thoughts that come out of nowhere. Because of our history of porn use, we seem wired to...

  • 2017 / 5 / 8
    115 – Warning: Matt Gets Fired Up

    In this episode, I go off the dome, and respond to critical feedback from two listeners. Warning: I get fired up. https://recoveredman.com/115

  • 2017 / 5 / 4
    114 – Smart Phones, Smart TVs, and Whatever Comes Next

    I get a lot of questions these days about Smart Phones and Smart TVs. Networked internet devices are the norm now. But they can also be a big threat to our sobriety. In this episode, I share a powerful...

  • 2017 / 4 / 25
    113 – Becoming the type of man that does not look at porn

    On this week's episode, I share an a-ha moment from a PFR listener. Jon shares how he's gotten to 81 days porn and masturbation free by making daily investment building his character. He writes, "I am...

  • 2017 / 4 / 6
    112 – Avoiding Failure

    Are you avoiding failure in your life? Are you trying to escape negative thoughts, feelings, or emotions? This pattern of avoidance could be fueling your porn addiction and at the same time thwarting your...

  • 2017 / 3 / 28
    111 – The Top 3 Lies Partners Believe with Hope Ray

    Hope Ray is back! In this episode, we discuss the top 3 lies that partners believe when their husbands or boyfriend's struggle with porn. Hope first joined us in episodes 70 and 74 of Porn Free Radio. She...

  • 2017 / 3 / 21
    110 – Do I have to hit rock bottom to recover?

    In this episode, I unpack the good and bad news about hitting rock bottom. The bad news is few people will be able to porn free unless they have hit rock bottom. But I also have some really good news… I also...

  • 2017 / 3 / 13
    109 – What we live for is more important than what we give up

    My inbox is full (again!) Time to answer your burning questions: - Are there any porn free sexual acts? - Do you have any advice or specific tips for those of us who wrestle with same-sex pornography? - How...

  • 2017 / 3 / 9
    108 – 110 Days Porn Free While Studying For The Bar Exam

    In this episode, we open the Pornfree mail bag, read your letters and answer questions like: * Any suggestions for parents of someone who doesn’t seem to want to fight to be porn free? * Do you have any...

  • 2017 / 3 / 2
    107 – Back 2 Basics: The 7-Day Porn Free Plan

    In this episode, you'll learn how to create a hyper focused 7-day porn free recovery plan. This continues our "Back 2 Basics" series targeted at new listeners. "To go porn free for a month, you have to go...

  • 2017 / 2 / 20
    106 – Back 2 Basics: F.A.S.T.T. Check-Ins

    Continuing our Back 2 Basics series, we review the tool of F.A.S.T.T. check-ins. This structured check-in process will anchor your recovery each week and improve your success. This check-in format comes from...

  • 2017 / 2 / 13
    105 – Back 2 Basics: Daily Tracking

    How can we measure the health of our recovery daily? In this episode, I share a new tool for daily recovery tracking that was inspired by the National Hockey League (NHL). https://recoveredman.com/105

  • 2017 / 2 / 9
    104 – How To Deal With Depression

    In this uncut, unedited episode of Porn Free Radio, I share 5 things that help me deal with depression. https://recoveredman.com/104

  • 2017 / 1 / 25
    103 – How To Take Massive Action

    Do you want to jumpstart your recovery this week? Take massive action. Matt is joined by Steve, a Porn Free Radio listener, who took 10 actions last week and shares each of them here....

  • 2017 / 1 / 17
    102 – How Do You Sustain Long-Term Sobriety?

    On my 6th anniversary of being porn free, I answer 2 recent questions; "How do you sustain long-term sobriety?" and "What does the struggle look like for you now?" https://recoveredman.com/102

  • 2017 / 1 / 10
    101 – The Most Important Recovery Book You’ve Never Read

    In 1939, the most important recovery book of all time was written. It has sold more than 30 million copies! However you won't find it when searching for "porn addiction" on Amazon. And chances are you have...

  • 2017 / 1 / 2
    100 – Nice to meet you, I’m addicted to porn

    Celebrating 100 episodes of Porn Free Radio by putting the focus on you the listener. On this episode... Ben, a listener from the Pacific Northwest, joins Porn Free Radio and shares his...

  • 2016 / 12 / 26
    099 – How do I start to feel again?

    My inbox is full (again!) Time to answer your burning questions: - How do I start to feel again? - How do you address incognito with browsers? - Help! I'm a big sports fan and when my team loses, I relapse -...

  • 2016 / 12 / 19
    098 – Do you have any tips for finding a group?

    In this episode, we open the Porn Free mail bag, read your letters and answer questions. https://recoveredman.com/98

  • 2016 / 12 / 12
    097 – Go Porn Free in 2017 Pt. 3: Your Tribe

    Pornography is a habit that is practiced in isolation and in secret. Isn't it just common sense that to break that habit you need others? This is part 3 of our 3-part series for going porn free in...

  • 2016 / 12 / 5
    096 – Go Porn Free in 2017 Pt. 2: Your Plan

    “Winners anticipate, losers react.” – Tony Robbins Listeners who have had success listening to Pornfree Radio have one thing in common. They have a plan. A custom recovery plan is essential to getting free...

  • 2016 / 11 / 29
    095 – Go Porn Free in 2017 Pt. 1: Your Why

    You need to know why you are eliminating porn from your life. The more clear you are, the better. It can't just be for your wife, your faith, your family, your job, etc. You have all those things now and...

  • 2016 / 11 / 21
    094 – My Intentions Are Good, But My Follow Through Sucks

    In this episode, we talk about... Goal Setting. For years goal setting was something I resisted. But in recovery it's become a growing strength. https://recoveredman.com/94

  • 2016 / 11 / 16
    093 – Back 2 Basics: Morning Routine

    How does a morning routine help keep you porn free? That and more are the focus of this episode. Ben Fraser from the Brick House web series sits in. https://recoveredman.com/93

  • 2016 / 11 / 16
    092 – Back 2 Basics: Edging

    A topic that keeps coming up is edging. Edging are the little behaviors that mimic our old ways of acting out. Hashtags, images searches, channel surfing, second looks, all fall into this category. They seem...

  • 2016 / 11 / 2
    091 – The Feeling Wheel

    Matt shares a tool he has been using recently in 1-on-1 coaching to help clients identify the primary feelings in their life. https://recoveredman.com/91

  • 2016 / 10 / 25
    090 – I’m Not Perfect…But I’m Good At Not Relapsing

    "Matt, I'm not perfect. But you know what I am good at? Not relapsing." One of my friends, with many years of sobriety, once told me this. The secret is what you do when you start getting...

  • 2016 / 10 / 19
    089 – Social Recovery with Alex Lerza from rTribe

    Alex Lerza from rTribe visits Porn Free Radio and shares why connection is the opposite of addiction. Alex by training is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist....

  • 2016 / 10 / 5
    088 – What I Found When I Searched for “Porn Addiction” on Amazon.com

    When looking for help with porn addiction, books seem like a safe way to learn. Especially when ordered online. But what do the search results from Amazon.com tell us about our porn addiction? I saw some...

  • 2016 / 9 / 29
    087 – A Man Divided Cannot Stand

    Whether you're new to Porn Free Radio or have been listening from the beginning, there's a common journey we share. We all start divided with an external life we show people and a hidden life where our...

  • 2016 / 9 / 13
    086 Missing In Action

    What's missing in recovery? YOU. Are you showing up? Are you supporting others? Do you know the value of your presence? In this episode, we discuss why everyone should be in a group....

  • 2016 / 9 / 4
    085 The Worst Men’s Group Ever

    A year into my recovery, I attended the worst men's group ever. Nobody was having much success and I felt worse going home then when I got there. In this episode, I share what was missing and how you can...

  • 2016 / 8 / 31
    084 More Lies That Keep Us Coming Back To Porn

    In episode 75, I shared 5 lies that keep us coming back to porn. This was one of our most downloaded podcasts of the summer. On a recent Reddit thread, I posted the original 5 lies and users contributed more...

  • 2016 / 8 / 24
    083 Ask More Questions

    Providing great accountability is more than just encouraging someone when they relapse. In this episode, we talk about 3 tools you can use to make your accountability stronger. These tools can be difference...

  • 2016 / 8 / 16
    082 The 5 Characteristics of Great Accountability Partners

    Is your accountability partner a CHAMP? In this episode, we answer your questions about accountability and accountability partners. You'll also learn the 5 characteristics of great accountability...

  • 2016 / 8 / 8
    081 Up In Your Business w/ Angus Nelson

    Fresh off of Podcast Movement 2016, Matt welcomes Angus Nelson from the "Up In Your Business" podcast. On this episode, Angus opens up about his history with porn and gets...

  • 2016 / 8 / 1
    080 The 1 Habit You Need To Stay Porn Free

    Matt shares two recent stories from coaching clients and the 1 consistent habit you need to stay porn free. https://recoveredman.com/80

  • 2016 / 7 / 25
    079 The 3 Choices You Have When Dealing With Porn

    There are three choices you have when dealing with porn. In this episode, Matt shares an embarrassing story and how it applies to your recovery. https://recoveredman.com/79

  • 2016 / 7 / 12
    078 The Biggest Mistake People Make When Quitting Porn Pt. 2

    In episode 4 of Porn Free Radio, we talked about the biggest mistake people make when quitting porn. This episode is one of our most popular and has been downloaded over 5000 times. In this follow up, I...

  • 2016 / 6 / 27
    077 Seven Deadly Excuses

    In each Porn Free Radio podcast, a sale is made. Either you buy what I'm selling about being porn free or you sell me an excuse why you can't. In this episode, we talk about the seven deadly excuses that...

  • 2016 / 6 / 21
    076 The #1 Thing Porn Costs Us

    I've talked to over sixty guys 1-on-1 this past year about their struggle with porn. When I asked what it has cost them, there is a common answer that comes up over and over again. But is it the whole story?...

  • 2016 / 6 / 13
    075 The 5 Lies That Keep Us Coming Back To Porn

    There are 5 lies I hear over and over again from guys trying to quit porn. These are the mistaken beliefs that go through right before we act out. In this episode, I label the 5 lies and share 5 powerful...

  • 2016 / 6 / 6
    074 Hope Ray Returns: Partners’ Q&A

    In episode 70, Hope Ray joined us from HopeRayTherapy.com to discuss the Partners' experience. Hope returns to answer questions from partners, wives, and girlfriends. https://recoveredman.com/74

  • 2016 / 6 / 1
    073 Ten Porn Free Hacks For Summer

    Summer is here. And with it brings time off, vacations, new schedules, bikinis, and summer clothing. In this episode, Matt shares ten porn free hacks you can use this Summer to stay on the right track. ...

  • 2016 / 5 / 25
    072 Can A Recovering Porn Addict Be An Artist?

    Can I be a recovering porn addict and an artist at the same time? What about drawing nudes? Or what about art that is erotic? In the art world, the line between porn and art can be thin. In some cases, one...

  • 2016 / 5 / 15
    071 Why Men Look at Porn

    The nagging question after any relapse is 'Why?" Why did I look at porn when I was committed not to? Why did I look at porn even though it's harmful to my relationship? Why did I look at porn and put my job...

  • 2016 / 5 / 5
    070 Hope for Partners, Wives, and Girlfriends with Hope Ray

    It's been 2 years of Porn Free Radio and this is a show unlike any other. On this episode we focus on partners. We discuss disclosures, coming clean, check-ins, and the partners' experience. ...

  • 2016 / 4 / 25
    069 Sex In Recovery From Porn?

    Opening the mailbag once again this week with a stack of questions from you the listener. In this episode: "Is sex in recovery okay?" "What about hard mode?" "What about sex when your older?" "What happens...

  • 2016 / 4 / 19
    068 How Long Does It Take To Quit Porn?

    On this episode, Matt digs into the PFR mailbag and answers some questions listeners want to know. “We don’t think our way to right action, we act our way to right thinking.” – AA Recovery...

  • 2016 / 4 / 9
    067 Killing The Passive Will

    Sometimes we discover that we just plain want to hang on porn. We want to be passive and put the responsibility of moving forward on someone else. But it's time to make a decision. https://recoveredman.com/67

  • 2016 / 3 / 15
    066 IMPORTANT: Do you want to fix this?

    This show resets the vision of Porn Free Radio. If you are new listener feel free to listen to some old shows. If you're a long timer, it's time to have an honest conversation: Do you want to fix this? Do...

  • 2016 / 3 / 7
    065 Not Safe For Work Pt 3: Getting Things Done

    This is the final episode in a 3 podcast series about dealing with porn at work. We've identified in episode 63 the risks of using porn at work. In episode 64 we talked about how your leadership is...

  • 2016 / 3 / 1
    064 Not Safe For Work Pt 2: The Impotent Leader

    This is part 2 of 3 episodes on porn use and the work place. Ben Fraser from the Brick House Web Series joins me again. This time we discuss the effect of porn use on your leadership at...

  • 2016 / 2 / 23
    063 Not Safe For Work Pt 1: Risky Business

    According to a survey* conducted by the Barna Group in the U.S. in 2014: 63% of adult men have looked at pornography at least one time while at work in the past 3 months; 38% have done so more than...

  • 2016 / 2 / 16
    062 A Bone To Pick

    Matt is joined by Brick House web series creator, Ben Fraser. Ben first visited Porn Free Radio for episode 24 on Creativity and Recovery. In this episode, Matt and Ben discuss the second season of Brick...

  • 2016 / 1 / 27
    061 The Strength To Delete It All

    Saying goodbye to your stash is hard to do. It's been with you a long time. It's like a security blanket. But it is something that has to be done if you want freedom. In this episode, we talk about the...

  • 2016 / 1 / 13
    060 Going 5 Years Porn Free

    In this episode, recorded on my 5th anniversary of being 100% porn free. I share the 5 biggest things that have helped me stay porn free since January 2011. https://recoveredman.com/60

  • 2016 / 1 / 7
    059 Fail Better Pt 2: Preventing Relapse

    Continuing our discussion on relapse from episode 58. In this show we talk about the lies we believe and how to prevent relapse. https://recoveredman.com/59

  • 2015 / 12 / 21
    058 Fail Better Pt 1: Recovering From Relapse

    I get a ton of email about relapse. Immediately after a relapse guys send me questions trying to figure out what went wrong. Or sometimes they are trying to figure out what series of behaviors constitutes...

  • 2015 / 12 / 14
    057 Go Porn Free in 2016

    There is a part of you that doesn't want to listen to this podcast. Because to go porn free in 2016 you might have to do some things differently than this year. But you need to press through the resistance...

  • 2015 / 12 / 8
    056 A Letter From The North Pole

    This time a year, we hear a lot of stories about sending letters to Santa. But on this episode Matt reads a letter he received, this week, from the North Pole. https://recoveredman.com/56

  • 2015 / 11 / 29
    055 I Just Completed a Massive Binge…

    Fresh off the American holiday of Thanksgiving, where over indulgence is common, and Black Friday, America's shopping spectacle, Matt digs into one of the best letters he has ever gotten on...

  • 2015 / 11 / 24
    054 The 5 Essential Habits of Porn Free People

    In this episode, we talk about The 5 Essential Habits of Porn Free People. We hosted a webinar a few weeks back on this subject and over 60 guys jumped on to watch. But many of you couldn't make it. If you...

  • 2015 / 11 / 9
    053 How Do I Know If I’m Getting Better?

    If everything I do is preventative, setting up filters, rules, boundaries,etc. -- how do I know if I'm recovering? Am I really getting better? What are proactive things can I do speed up my...

  • 2015 / 11 / 2
    052 What Does Your Smartphone Look Like?

    Smartphones are the #1 threat to being porn free today. They are up to a 100x more powerful than computers we used a few years ago and sit on our nightstand. But smartphones are not the problem, it's our...

  • 2015 / 10 / 28
    051 Slips Vs. Acting Out

    Slips. Close calls. Edging. How do we define those little behaviors that are related to our old porn rituals? Matt tackles the age old recover problem: Did we have a slip or did we...

  • 2015 / 10 / 12
    050 The Real Scandal Behind Ashley Madison

    The real scandal behind the Ashley Madison hack didn't make headlines, but it has real implications for guys who want to go porn free. I'll share what we can learn from Ashley Madison and what it has in...

  • 2015 / 10 / 5
    049 Why Did I Binge After 30 Days of Success?

    This summer my mailbox has been full. In this episode, I'll be answering questions from listeners. Questions discussed in this episode: - Why did I Binge after 30 days of success? - How do you build more...

  • 2015 / 9 / 28
    048 Home Alone Syndrome

    Have you ever gotten home and realized you were alone with unaccountable time? And your next thought was, "Yippe I can look at porn." Or have you ever had 10 minutes of free time on your smart phone and...

  • 2015 / 9 / 21
    047 I Lived With A Porn Star Pt 2: Craig Perra

    This is part 2 of 2 episodes with Craig Perra from the Mindful Habit. In this episode, Craig continues to document his profound and emotional experience shooting the reality TV show, Living With the Enemy,...

  • 2015 / 9 / 14
    046 I Lived With A Porn Star Pt 1: Craig Perra

    In early 2015, Craig Perra, life coach from the Mindful Habit, lived with a porn star, Emily Nicholson for 8 days. They were on the Lifetime reality series, Living With the Enemy. This is part 1 of 2...

  • 2015 / 9 / 7
    045 Temptation Pt 2: The Way of Escape

    The second of two episodes on temptation is all about the way of the escape. Temptation is common to all men. And we have the ability to make choices in the moment. It might feel automatic now, but you can...

  • 2015 / 9 / 2
    044 Temptation Pt 1: Your Desire

    Our first of two episodes on temptation is all about your desire. Before you learn how to deal with temptation, you have to first define what it really means. Then you have to see the temptation cycle and how...

  • 2015 / 8 / 16
    043 Porn Addiction Side Effects

    The phrase "porn addiction side effects" is searched in Google over 60, 000 times a month. Guys are looking for answers in attempt to self-diagnose things like, Porn-induced Erectile Dysfunction, depression,...

  • 2015 / 7 / 27
    042 Getting Started Pt 3: Your Plan

    Our final installment in our three-part series on Getting Started, focuses on your plan. “Fail to plan. Plan to fail.”, is a true statement. Without a plan in place you continue to get triggered, go to unsafe...

  • 2015 / 7 / 14
    041 Getting Started Pt 2: Phone A Friend

    The second in our three-part series on Getting Started, focuses on asking for help. Whether it's a phone call, a text, or a face to face meeting we need to bring others into our struggle with pornography. ...

  • 2015 / 7 / 7
    040 Getting Started Pt 1: Hitting Rock Bottom

    Our first in a three-part series on Getting Started is all about hitting rock bottom and how your darkest moment can be a great gift in your recovery. In this episode you’ll learn: * What it means to hit...

  • 2015 / 6 / 29
    039 Avoiding The Porn Checkout Line

    You ever wonder why stores place candy by the checkout counter? James Clear wrote a recent article on this very subject. His simple premise explains what selling candy bars can teach you about building...

  • 2015 / 6 / 15
    038 Where Are You Moving?

    If we’ve left the country where porn controls our life, how can we still live in our old house there? For many the desire to change is followed by this struggle. We have packed up and moved for good and yet...

  • 2015 / 6 / 1
    037 The Fastest Way To Freedom

    Looking back at my recovery process, I wouldn’t change much. The missteps and relapses help me strengthen my plan. I learned a lot from my mistakes. But I realize now there was something in those early days...

  • 2015 / 5 / 25
    036 Finding Your Motivation

    Pornfree Radio is for motivated guys who want to quit looking at porn. But how do you find motivation? Are there any bad motivations for quitting porn? Why does it help to get specific about what your primary...

  • 2015 / 5 / 18
    035 Rethinking 12 Step With Craig Perra From The Mindful Habit

    Craig Perra, founder of The Mindful Habit™, returns for a powerful conversation about 12 Step groups and the disease model for treating addiction. Together, we discuss some of the pros and cons of 12 step...

  • 2015 / 5 / 11
    034 Hope for the Porn Addicted Christian

    Christian guys make up the majority of my audience and Christians have some compelling reasons to want to eliminate porn from their lives. It’s in direct conflict with the teachings of Jesus. In Jesus’ most...

  • 2015 / 5 / 5
    033 Hope for the Porn Addicted Agnostic

    When I started this podcast I wasn’t sure who would join this community and go on this ride for me. I had been mostly doing this stuff with in my church and was used to working with Christian guys. But a good...

  • 2015 / 4 / 27
    032 Am I A Porn Addict?

    The culture tells us porn addiction is made up. But we know different. There is something about this behavior that we have grown tired of. It is not serving us well. In this episode, Matt goes through a...

  • 2015 / 4 / 20
    031 The Turning Point In My Recovery

    Getting caught downloading pornography, by my wife, was not my rock bottom. In this episode, I tell the story of the most significant and scary night in my recovery. My own personal turning point. Guys, I am...

  • 2014 / 12 / 29
    030 Going Porn Free in 2015

    Screw resolutions! You need a plan to go porn free in 2015. This episode is all about giving you steps to go 100% porn free for the WHOLE year. In this episode you’ll learn: * The 4 steps to creating...

  • 2014 / 12 / 16
    029 The Wrestler

    This is NOT a review of the 2008 Mickey Rourke film, The Wrestler. Instead, it’s a metaphor of the porn free life. Matt digs into the parallels between our journey and the dedication required in the sport of...

  • 2014 / 12 / 3
    028 3-Day Ditch and Porn Fantasies in the Bedroom

    Matt hits the listener mailbag in this episode tackling questions about getting over the 3-day hump and how to deal with porn fantasies in the bedroom. In this episode you’ll learn: * A quick definition of a...

  • 2014 / 11 / 24
    027 How Idiots Track Success

    We have all been guilty of defining success solely in terms of the number of porn free days we have. In this episode, we discuss 5 alternative ways you can measure your success in overcoming porn...

  • 2014 / 11 / 18
    026 Shame and Porn Addiction

    Your problem might not be porn, it might be shame. Shame keeps us isolated and in the dark. In this environment, porn addiction grows like mold on forgotten left overs in the back of the fridge. In this...

  • 2014 / 11 / 10
    025 The Pornification of Culture: Surprising Advocates

    In this episode, Matt shares some surprising advocates in the mainstream with strong opinions about the harm of porn in today’s culture. Resources: * WTF with Marc Maron Episode 547 – Dr. Drew...

  • 2014 / 11 / 3
    024 Creativity and Recovery with Ben Fraser, Creator of Brick House

    In this episode, we discuss the relationship between creativity and recovery with Ben Fraser, film maker and creator of the Brick House Web Series about quitting porn. Ben shares about his own journey out of...

  • 2014 / 10 / 27
    023 Our Greatest Trap in Life

    Our greatest trap in life comes from a quote by Henri Nouwen. Hint: it’s not porn or lust. This trap can undermine the recovery work you are doing and actually perpetuate your porn addiction. In this episode...

  • 2014 / 10 / 20
    022 The Biggest Warning Sign of a Relapse

    There is one thing that precedes every relapse with porn. It’s not a powerful trigger, a stressful day at work, free porn on your hotel TV, or a web link sent from a coworker. It’s an internal action we...

  • 2014 / 9 / 25
    021 Feedback: Forgiveness, Nostalgia, and Voyeurism

    This week we respond to Pornfree Radio listener feedback from Episode 19 and Episode 20. I am traveling today and recorded this episode

  • 2014 / 9 / 15
    020 Celebrity Nudes: How To Avoid Powerful Triggers

    This show is ripped from recent headlines. The internet almost shut down a few weeks back when hackers released nude photos of a group of famous celebrities. This got me to thinking about our response as...

  • 2014 / 9 / 8
    019 My Wife Caught Me Looking At Porn. Now What?!?!

    After being caught with porn, or after a relapse, how you talk to your wife about it could be the difference in saving your relationship and losing it. In this episode you’ll learn: * Why we need to be...

  • 2014 / 9 / 2
    018 Pornfree and Single

    If you’re single does it matter if you keep pornfree? In this episode, Matt tackles the issue of porn and the single guy. In this episode you’ll learn: * What happened to the lost Pornfree Radio theme song *...

  • 2014 / 8 / 25
    017 How To Stop Objectifying and Oogling with Craig Perra of The Mindful Habit

    Craig Perra, life coach and founder of The Mindful Habit method of porn and sex addiction recovery, returns to teach a lesson from his exclusive online course on the stubborn habit of objectifying and...

  • 2014 / 8 / 18
    016 Escaping Porn Addiction with Craig Perra of The Mindful Habit

    This is the first of two dynamic episodes with Craig Perra, life coach and founder of The Mindful Habit method of porn and sex addiction recovery. We start with Craig’s beginnings, being exposed to porn at...

  • 2014 / 8 / 12
    015 Porn! Recorded Live in Indianapolis

    There are things porn addicts know coming into recovery and more importantly things they need to know. This episode was from a workshop with Matt Dobschuetz recorded live for ministry leaders in Indianapolis,...

  • 2014 / 7 / 28
    014 Seven Things To Know When Starting a Support Group for Porn Addicts

    “It’s so great you’re helping *those* people.” Sometimes people will say that at church. They’re trying to compliment me, because they think that having a porn related podcast or having a church support group...

  • 2014 / 7 / 21
    013 Top 5 Benefits From Helping Others With Porn Addiction

    It may seem counter-intuitive to those looking for help with porn addiction. But early in my own recovery I started a support group and I actually helped myself. Could you start a group in your area in the...

  • 2014 / 7 / 9
    012 Is Masturbation Without Porn Bad?

    The M-Word aka Masturbation is the 800 lb gorilla in the room in any conversation about pornography. Most people with a porn problem have a strong masturbation habit. So what happens with masturbation when...

  • 2014 / 7 / 2
    011 Technology and Porn with Luke Gilkerson of Covenant Eyes

    This episode we are joined by Luke Gilkerson, Internet Community Manager for Covenant Eyes. Luke is perhaps the most prolific blogger on the subject of porn and recovery on the internet with 1500+ posts. In...

  • 2014 / 6 / 26
    010 Four Porn Pitfalls With Popular Media

    The water cooler talk lately seems to be a lot about the HBO show “Game of Thrones.” The popular TV-MA show with nudity, illicit sexuality and even rape has us asking the question is this okay to watch? This...

  • 2014 / 6 / 18
    009 The Key To Successful Porn Addiction Recovery

    There is one key in your recovery that is the foundation for living the rest of your life pornfree. Hint: it’s not your days sober or how perfect you are. It’s your form. In this episode, I talk about running...

  • 2014 / 6 / 16
    008 Bonus Episode Father’s Day

    Father’s Day 2014. In this bonus episode, I discuss Reddit feedback from last week’s episode, 007 What My Dad Didn’t Tell Me About Porn. At the end of the episode, I recommend taking the Father’s Day...

  • 2014 / 6 / 11
    007 What My Dad Didn’t Tell Me About Porn

    This week is Father’s day and it got me to thinking about my dad. My dad was a loving father who modeled integrity and humility. However he was silent on the issue of sexuality and pornography. My dad...

  • 2014 / 6 / 4
    006 Life After Porn Addiction: The Good Stuff

    Life is not all about defensive strategies around porn addiction. In this episode, I share about 5 benefits from going pornfree AKA the Good Stuff. Now defensive strategies are important in overcoming porn...

  • 2014 / 5 / 28
    005 Pornfree Travel, Hotel Tips, and Trip Planning

    Staying pornfree while traveling doesn’t happen by accident. It takes work. In this episode I give some of my best tips for travel and hotels. I also walk you through T-UP, a planning exercise, I go through...

  • 2014 / 5 / 21
    004 The Biggest Mistake People Make When Quitting Porn

    On this episode, we talk about the biggest mistake people make when quitting porn. I also share how I once spent $250/min to look at porn. The biggest mistake people make when quitting porn is not setting any...

  • 2014 / 5 / 15
    003 Dumb Smartphones and Master Locks

    In Episode 3, we talk about dumb smartphones, Master Locks, and other stories about limiting access to porn. Little things can go a big way in breaking your addiction to porn. Doing what it takes to get...

  • 2014 / 5 / 7
    002 Unlovable

    Continuing the conversation about coming clean about pornography addiction. In this episode, we talk about some of the emotional benefits we experience when we are honest with safe people in our lives. For me...

  • 2014 / 4 / 30
    001 – Coming Clean

    Your first step to healing is coming clean about your problem with pornography and masturbation. What can you do this week to come clean? http://recoveredman.com/1